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Tales from a Fractured Folly: 30th December 2017


I lost him one year ago. Technically it was tomorrow morning but realistically it was this afternoon and Amelia and I were the ones who last held his hand. It’s very vivid and precious in my mind, it always will be and that is just as it should be. But there is no point to any of it if you do not learn something, so what have I learnt? Well you certainly find out who your real friends are and they are not always who you think.

So to those people who have reached out, included me in their life and helped me through this year, you have my everlasting thanks. They know who they are.

To those friends of mine and Adrian’s who have “been there” for me but have not had the time or inclination to get in touch (how hard is it these days?), those who I have had no contact with since his funeral, those who are utterly self absorbed in their own bubble and never found the time, those who say “we must…” and it never happens. To those of you who are couples, one of you WILL go before the other and maybe then you will understand when I say, you could have done better.

But I managed without you. So there…😝

Author: ibeastie

Interested in Photography, Watches, Style and Cars

6 thoughts on “Tales from a Fractured Folly: 30th December 2017

  1. You are a strong woman, Chrissie. And there is much truth to ‘you find out who your friends are.’ Sad, but true. I miss him, too. I would love to tell him, “Adrian–two more months of chemo and then I am on watch and see mode.” I can see him smiling now. Thanks for this post.

  2. I only knew Adrian through his posts on the CW Forum and yourself through this blog.

    I would just like you to know that I have checked for your entries daily and feel privileged to have followed how you have coped/got through and finally enjoyed the past year.

    Best wishes to you.

    May the next year bring you much happiness.


    • Thank you. It’s not s journey I would wish on anyone but it’s one half of us will have to take. Adrian always said he had the best deal.

      • I understand.

        My wife had serious heart surgery earlier this year and I have never felt so scared in my life worrying whether she would pull through.

        Happily she did and is now fit and well.

        I am not sure whether I would have had your fortitude had it turned out differently.


  3. Take care Chrissie, I’ve followed you for the last few years and contacted Adrian via email on a couple of occasions, I really feel your sadness at this time of the year… take care x

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